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You’ve Got the Power!
10 Ways to Own Up to Your power

By Sue Frederick, author of Dancing at Your Desk

           
You’ve got some painful history that you’re dragging around with you. Maybe it’s your childhood, a divorce, bankruptcy, or the death of someone you love.

You’ve made a story. The story says: “I was abandoned, hurt, rejected, betrayed, abused, fired, unemployed or bankrupted.”  (Insert the verb of your choice.) It doesn’t matter if you never speak about your story. What matters is that you BELIEVE your story.

You drag that pitiful old story with you into every new job, relationship, and experience. Not only does that story define your past, but now it defines your future.

From your old story, you create a stance in life. It goes like this: Bad things have happened to me such as divorce, loss, being laid off, or broke. Therefore I’m a victim, and the world is a difficult, scary place.

When you’re faced with an unknown future experience, you project the old beliefs into the new empty space - which is filled with possibility. You pollute your future and destroy wonderful new possibilities with your old story.

For example, let’s say you fall in love. Instead of being filled with love and optimism, you project your fear into the new relationship, and thus sabotage it from the beginning.

Or you get a great new job. Instead of showing up filled with passion and brilliance, you’ve already picked out the boss who’s going to give you trouble. You’re projecting your past experiences onto him or her.

 

Let’s put a new twist on this.

You weren’t abandoned by anyone, ever. You only abandoned your own magnificence.

You weren’t betrayed by anyone. You betrayed your own magnificence.

Nobody fires us, we fire ourselves.

No one lays us off. We lay ourselves off.

No one abuses us. We abuse our own magnificent selves.

How? With our fear and negative beliefs.

We have our hands on the steering wheel every minute of every day of every year of our lives. If we don’t like where we’ve ended up, we can turn the wheel in a new direction.

Look back at your life’s journey. Take away the bad guys. Take away all the players in your drama whom you’ve blamed for your pain. Now what do you have?

You have your own pitiful self abusing your own magnificent self. You have your pitiful self abandoning, hurting, and rejecting your magnificent self. You have your own fearful beliefs sabotaging your brilliant self.

 

Why would you do that?

You don’t do it on purpose. You do it because you don’t understand your own power. You’ve forgotten who you are. You bought into the popular mindset and accepted the culture and family beliefs that were handed to you. You fit in - in order to be loved.

Our limited, socially acceptable beliefs tell us that we’re pitiful like everyone else, and we’re here to play it small. Our culture tells us we’re short-lived, disease-prone bodies who are here to make a decent living - and not be rude to others.

(Wow… what a pitiful life that is?)

So we get depressed, sad, and anxious all because we know better. We know that something is missing. We know we’re here for something greater.

That dissonance inside of us gets so disturbing that we try to destroy the voice that tells us WE have the power – because that belief doesn’t jive with what society and our families are telling us. We diminish our power to fit in.

Everyone has the need to be loved. We learn at a young age that in order to get the love we want - we have to follow the tribal rules.

But somebody sneaks a few bigger thoughts and dreams into their existence, and they get to be the boss, shaman, entrepreneur, CEO, Artist, or Physician.

Even for those people, the voice inside still says “You don’t REALLY have the power.” That voice gets louder the older we get, because we see things happen: tragedies, deaths, divorces and bankruptcies. 

We say, “See! Life is difficult and nobody gets what they want or at least not for very long! Even Richard Hatch who won $1 million on ‘Survivor’ ends up in jail. We must be victims after all.”

And our lives get more and more pitiful.

Who has the power in your life? Only you. You have your hands on YOUR steering wheel and your foot on YOUR gas pedal. Every thought you think fuels your car, and every emotion you feel determines your direction. Act like it, and you might surprise yourself.

Here are ten ways to own your power:

1. Remember, the only question ever worth asking is: What do I want to happen?
2. The only activity ever worth doing is: Dreaming up a better world, relationship, bank account, health prognosis or career.
3. The only reality you ever need to accept is the one you want to happen.
4. Stand in front of the mirror and say, “I’VE got the POWER!” Walk around saying that until you giggle. Now your life is headed in the right direction.
5. Whenever you have a choice to make, base your decision on this question: “Will it make me feel powerful or pitiful to do this?” If the answer is “powerful” - that’s a yes. Will it make me feel powerful or pitiful to take that job, start that business, write that book, invest in that property, get into that relationship, or say those words?
6. Your choice always has to be for your powerful self, because that’s where your brilliance and inspiration lives. That’s where you stop insulting your own divinity – the fabric you were made from which is divine source energy.
7. Quit living like a rat in a maze. Get the eagle’s view of your life – the big picture. Figure out who you want to end up being, and turn your car around now.
8. Remember: You have no one to blame for any circumstance in your life. Every external circumstance (from your bank account balance to your health) is a result of your inner thoughts and beliefs about what is possible for you.
9. Give up “wanting to change” or “needing to change.” That comes from a state of pitifulness – not magnificence. Either do it or don’t do it. Quit WANTING anything to happen.
10. Remember, it’s never a problem. It’s a frequency. Change your energy frequency from pitiful to powerful, and the problem dissolves. You become part of the force, part of divinity, and all obstacles dissolve in your path.

 

Sue Frederick is a career counselor, energy coach, author and lecturer. She is the founder of BrilliantDay Revolution Network and teaches workshops and classes at Naropa University and University of Colorado, and is the author of Dancing at Your Desk; A Metaphysical Guide to Job Happiness and BrilliantDay: 7 Solutions to Turn Your Day Around. For more information, or to sign up for Sue's classes and workshops, visit www.BrilliantWork.com, email Sue@BrilliantWork.com or call 303-939-8574.

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