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7 Steps to Reinvent Yourself

By Sue Frederick, author of Dancing at Your Desk

           
Everything that has happened to you has been on purpose. You called up the wonderful and terrible players in your drama and perfectly designed your good and bad circumstances. Why?

• To remember who you are.
• To remember your divine innate power.
• To find your gifts and bring them to the world through your work.

This was the theme of my recent Dancing at Your Desk workshop at Naropa University where people (just like you) began the process of reinvention.

Sam, a software engineer, longs to be a teacher. Janet, a stay-at-home mom, is reentering the work world after 20 years. Andrea, an executive assistant, wants to be her own boss. Sound familiar?

Ranging in age from 30 to 60, these workshop attendees have seen many changes in their lives over the past few years and want to find work that expresses who they have become. They will. It’s guaranteed simply because they’ve taken the first step. 

The powerful 7-step process described below has guided hundreds of people to find joyful careers and a happier life. This process WILL work for you - whether you’re 20 or 70. Just take it one step at a time.

 

Step One: Wake Up!

Realize that you’re not a victim to the bad economy, job market or your limited job skills. You have your hands on the steering wheel (whether it feels like it or not). Your life is on purpose. You designed it to get where you are. Quit feeling sorry for yourself, blaming, arguing and being depressed. Take back your power and start dreaming up something better.

Are you afraid to pursue a better life because it’s not “realistic?” Consider this: When you “face reality” you’re accepting someone else’s idea of how life works and what is possible for you. When you say, “I will only face the reality I want to see,” you gain control of your life.

As the quantum physicists point out, you are made of “energy.” If you could peel off your human-body-suit and see the “unseen” world, you would realize that beneath your “visible” body is another body made of pulsing light. You would understand (without question) that your thoughts and beliefs emit powerful vibrations that everyone can feel.

If you believe you’ll never find work you love, that negative belief emits a strong pulsing vibration that arranges those exact circumstances in your life. If you want a better career or life, you have to turn around your negative beliefs about what is possible for you. If not, every thought you think will sabotage your success.

What do you really want right now? Chances are you’re getting exactly that. There are no victims here – just powerful manifesting beings using their energy to make their lives better or worse. How are you using your energy? How are you using your thoughts and beliefs?

 

Step Two: Dream

We’re told from the time we’re children to stop dreaming, to get our heads out of the clouds and face reality. Yet dreaming creates reality. Dreams make us feel happy, raise our energy levels, and tap into our brilliance – which is where solutions live.

Quit facing reality (and being pitiful). Instead, start dreaming of what you want to happen. Sit quietly for ten minutes and ask yourself: What would make me happy right now? What would make me happy this week? What do I want to happen in the next six months? Where do I want my life to be one year from now? What do I want my life to look like in five years?

When the answers make you giggle, you’ve got it right.

Your inspired dreams send out vibrations that pulse into the universe lining up events, circumstances and people in alignment with your desires. When your next thought is “Well, that can never happen,” you erase those possibilities from happening. It’s like a wave crashing over a sand castle.

You won’t find your great work by thinking in a limited, small-minded way. You must dream BIG in order to find new answers. Only then are you tapped into your creative source energy and true divine power.

 

Step Three: Search

The question to ask is not: What can I do for a living?

The right question is: What would I love doing for a living?

Your great work uses your innate talents which come gracefully and easily to you. If you’re not working from those innate talents, your work will be drudgery, uninspired and unsuccessful.

What makes you different from your best friend? Your spouse? Your sister? What do you love doing when you have a day to yourself? What do your friends tell you you’re good at? What do you value in a career? What has been your favorite job and why? What are you passionate about? What WILL you have in your next job?

Your answers will guide you to work you love. For more of these exercises, see the Dancing at Your Desk career workbook.

 

Step Four: Use Your Energy to Move through Pain and Fear

What is your greatest pain? Have you lost someone you love? Have you suffered injustices or been ignored? Your deepest hurt is a powerful clue for finding your true work.

Our work is ALWAYS healing us and healing the world as well. Our work heals us by letting us offer to the world exactly what we need to heal ourselves. By facing our pain, we turn it into energy. It moves us forward. Ask yourself what pain needs healing now? Let that answer guide you to work you love.

For example, if you felt unempowered as a child, perhaps your true work involves helping people find their greatness and believe in themselves. If you lost someone you love to disease, perhaps your work is to help people live healthy lives. I have many examples of this relationship between healing our pain and finding our true work in my book Dancing at Your Desk.

Step Five: See it

Consider the possibility that if you spent even a couple minutes each day seeing positive outcomes for your worries, life would go in a better direction. Isn’t it worth a little experimenting?

When we imagine what we want to happen, we tap into creative energy – the boundless realm of ever-changing possibilities. Our powerful thoughts attract circumstances and people in alignment with what we’re focusing on.

Before going to that job interview or asking a banker for a new business loan, take a moment and see the interaction going beautifully with everyone operating from their high-end (especially you).

See the banker saying, “Yes, I think we can…”

See the company CEO saying, “Yes, we’re always looking for people like you…”

See lots of laughter and good feeling in the room.

First ask, “What do I really want?” Then see it happening. Those two steps alone will change your life.

 

Step Six: Take Action!

After doing the steps described above, it’s essential that you take action. Go out into the world and research your ideas; Meet people, network, make phone calls, and take tangible steps in a new direction.

Once you begin moving forward in any direction – even the wrong direction – you’ll be pulled into the flow of forward-moving energy, and you’ll be guided to the right people and opportunities. You’ll become part of a vortex of positive energy that moves you into the right place at the right time. Forward motion takes on a life of its own.

HOWEVER, it’s essential that you send out pure positive energy to everyone you meet. Tell people who you are, what your talents are, and what you dream of doing. Gracefully omit the dire circumstances you face and the horrendous challenges you’ve survived. People won’t remember the words you say, but they will remember your good energy. That positive memory will make them think of you when an opportunity arises.

 

Step Seven: Change it!

Change is always the solution – not the problem. Our bodies are constantly changing; our cells replicating and dying. Our minds and spirits change as we have new experiences.

When we’re changing, we’re in the flow of life. If we’re not changing and moving forward, we’re stagnant and cut off from source energy. From the high-end of our continuum, we embrace change because we remember that it always takes us to a better place.

Your career is not a solid, unchanging object. Your career is energy – like everything else. It changes form as you interact with the world and have new thoughts and beliefs.

What works for you today will change tomorrow. That’s a good thing! Ride the wave of change and life will unfold gracefully.

In my career workshop last weekend, participants learned to use their thoughts, beliefs, and feelings to make their lives better, and to pursue their dreams passionately. They’ve taken a grand step towards a happier life, and you can do that too. Just take it one step at a time.

 

 

Sue Frederick is a career counselor, energy coach, author and lecturer. She is the founder of BrilliantDay Revolution Network and teaches workshops and classes at Naropa University and University of Colorado, and is the author of Dancing at Your Desk; A Metaphysical Guide to Job Happiness and BrilliantDay: 7 Solutions to Turn Your Day Around. For more information, or to sign up for Sue's classes and workshops, visit www.BrilliantWork.com, email Sue@BrilliantWork.com or call 303-939-8574.

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